BDSM for beginners Are you new to kink and curious about dipping your toes in? Maybe you already have a partner you’d like to explore […]
Uncomfortable truths about BDSM
Uncomfortable truths about BDSM Like the title says, I’m going to be talking about some hard truths in this post. If that triggers or unnerves […]
50 shades and the BDSM community: the love and the hate
50 Shades and the BDSM community The Love and the Hate A reader asked me whether I thought 50 Shades portrays BDSM accurately. I had […]
Is BDSM safe? – Risks and awareness
Is BDSM safe? Risks and awareness This is a complex question, but in short, no. BDSM is not safe. But then again, so many things […]
Opening up a relationship – For the right reasons
Opening up a relationship – For the right reasons This is the second part of two blog posts, and it tells the story of how […]
Opening up a relationship – For the wrong reasons
Opening up a relationship – for the wrong reasons When I opened up a relationship nine years ago, it ended in a mess and a […]
When a Scene Goes Wrong
When a scene goes wrong What happens when a BDSM scene goes wrong? Some people say it shouldn’t go wrong at all – that good […]
Punishment: For Fun or For Real
Punishment: For Fun or For Real After talking to a friend about punishments, I wanted to do this post to show how punishment comes in […]
Asking for What You Need
Asking for What you Need Isn’t easy I was doing a read through of “If I Were Yours,” and reading a scene where Clara finally […]
Crashing into Subdrop
Crashing into Subdrop It’s been years since I crashed into a severe subdrop—so long I almost forgot just how bad it can be even though […]
Living an Age Gap Romance
Living an Age Gap Romance I met S—my Dom and boyfriend—seven years ago; he was 48 at the time and I was 23. Never in […]
100 Shades of BDSM
100 Shades of BDSM I’ve been part of the BDSM community for quite a few years now, and what has surprised me the most as […]